Is there a relationship in your life that just doesn’t make sense?
One that leaves you worried, hurting, or second-guessing yourself?
See clearly. Choose wisely. Live better.
The McMillan Method helps you see what’s really happening, understand why, and know what to do next, using the science of how people think under pressure.
Private. Quick. Affordable. Built to work when it matters most.
The Relationship Revolution * See What Others Miss *
The Relationship Revolution * See What Others Miss *
Dina McMillan, Ph.D.
Stanford-Trained Social Psychologist, Internationally Published Author
TEDx Speaker · Nearly 500,000 Views
Creator, The McMillan Method
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What Buyers Say
“I was absolutely blown away by the results! … I think it’s a terrific guide for people wondering about the nature of a relationship.”
“Oh, my. I knew something was wrong, and this showed me what it was and how bad it was. Thank you. I get it now.”
“I’m amazed I got so much clear information in such a short time. I guess I have some decisions to make.”
Find Your Clarity Tool
What’s on Your Mind?
Start with the question you keep coming back to. Each Clarity Tool is private, self-scored and yours to keep, for $59.
Everyday relationships
“Is this relationship as healthy and mutual as it should be?”
Love Me, Love Me Not?™
Romantic partners, family and friends
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“Something feels wrong, but I can’t name it.”
Why Do I Feel So Bad?™
When a relationship is more than difficult, but you’re not sure what it is
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“Is this working, or working against me?”
Does This Work?™
Employees, managers and HR professionals
Explore this tool →When it goes beyond everyday conflict: Unmasking the Abuser™
A boundary brings punishment. Time with friends becomes “proof” you don’t care. Each incident is easy to explain away. Seen together, they can reveal something more serious. These four assessments start with what you’ve actually experienced or observed, with no need to prove anyone’s intentions first.
“This is new. Am I seeing red flags?”
Early Detection
For a new relationship
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“So much of my day is about avoiding their reaction.”
Inside the Relationship
For a current relationship
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“It’s over, so why do I still feel trapped?”
After the Relationship
For survivors
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“I’m worried someone I love is being controlled.”
Outside the Relationship
For friends, family and professionals
Explore this tool →Not sure yet? Start free.
Take the free 1-minute Is This Normal? test, get the checklist 7 Early Warning Signs Most People Explain Away, or join the free live webinar on Wed, Nov 18.
About Dr. McMillan’s work
“Thank you for the time you took making it possible for people like myself and friends to receive this knowledge and experience the new way to help ourselves to leave and avoid repeating the same life style with a different abuser… you are really telling my life story for 7 years wooww.”
The McMillan Method
See. Understand. Act.
Most advice is taught to your calm brain. Relationship problems happen to your stressed one. Every step of The McMillan Method is built on cognitive and social psychology, so what you learn is simple, specific and there for you when emotions run high. Start anywhere. Go as far as you need.
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Clarity Tool · $59
Quick, private and self-scored. Recognize the patterns, not just isolated incidents, and see where the relationship stands now.
“I need to understand what’s happening.”
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Score Guide $39 · Insight Edition $49
Go beyond the number. Learn what your results mean, which patterns matter most, who is driving them and how, and what you may want to do next.
“I have my results. Now what do they mean?”
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Webinars · Courses · 1:1 Guidance
Repair what can be repaired, build healthier dynamics, and protect yourself from influences that pull you away from your own interests and values. Online or in person, in a group, or one-on-one with Dr. McMillan or a member of her team.
“I’m ready to do something about it.”
Ways to Work With DinaDon’t Stay Stuck Wondering
Uncertainty Has a Cost. Clarity Changes What You Do Next.
It’s easy to replay conversations, second-guess yourself, ask everyone what they think, or hope things become clearer on their own. You can do something more useful, starting today, in private.
Will anyone know I took it?
Your answers are never submitted to The McMillan Method or anyone else. They stay in your own browser and aren’t stored in any account. If others use your devices, consider using a private browsing window and clearing your browser history afterward.
Is this a diagnosis?
No. Clarity Tools are educational. They help you look at patterns and evidence so you can make better-informed decisions. They don’t provide therapy, diagnosis or emergency services.
What if my results look fine?
Then you have peace of mind and a baseline. Because the tool is yours to keep, you can use it again any time things change.
How do I get it?
Right after purchase, you’ll get private access to your Clarity Tool. It opens in your web browser on any phone, tablet or computer, with nothing to install. Keep your link so you can come back to it any time.
Can I use it more than once?
Yes. Buy it once and revisit it whenever you choose, to see whether circumstances or patterns have changed.
If you are in immediate danger, call 911. In the U.S., the National Domestic Violence Hotline is available 24/7 at 1-800-799-7233.
TEDx: Unmasking the Abuser · nearly 500,000 views
Meet Dr. Dina McMillan
The Research and Experience Behind the Method
Dr. Dina McMillan is a Stanford University–educated social psychologist, author and internationally recognized expert on how healthy relationships are built, how harmful relationships take hold, and how people can tell the difference.
For more than 25 years, her work has focused on the patterns people often miss, and on turning that knowledge into practical tools. Her work has taken her from courts, law enforcement and government to professional training and international audiences. She is the creator of Unmasking the Abuser, author of multiple books, and host of Heart & Mind with Dr. Dina McMillan.
More About Dr. McMillan ▶ Watch Heart & Mind
A Quick Reference Guide to Abusers’ Strategies and Tactics
The selection ploys and control tactics abusers rely on, explained clearly so you can recognize the pattern early. A practical first step, and the perfect companion to the Unmasking the Abuser™ Clarity Assessments.
Included free with every Unmasking the Abuser™ Complete Clarity System.
For Organizations
Bring This Work to Your People
Keynotes, training and workshops for workplaces, schools and colleges, courts, law enforcement, government and community services. Delivered online and in person, for groups of any size, since 2007.
- Keynotes, lectures and seminars
- Workshops tailored to your sector
- Private webinars, tailored to your group
- Train-the-trainer programs
- Courses, including How It’s Done
- Original materials on request
- Limited one-on-one consulting
Ready for Answers You Can Act On?
You don’t have to keep guessing about an important relationship. Start on your own terms, see what the evidence shows, and decide what makes sense for you.
Find My Clarity Tool — $59Private • Self-scored • Reusable
