For Professionals & Organizations
You See Part of the Picture.
Learn What It’s Telling You.
HR leaders, advocates, counselors, healthcare and social-service staff, educators, and justice professionals often notice something before anyone names it. The McMillan Method gives your people a shared, evidence-based way to recognize harmful relationship patterns and respond within their role, without guessing, labeling or overstepping.
Since 2007 training courts, law enforcement, government and professional audiences · 4,500+ survivor interviews · 700+ in-depth interviews with abusers · TEDx talk with nearly 500,000 views
Start With Your Role
What Brings You Here?
Choose the setting closest to yours. Every program is tailored to your audience, sector and goals.
HR, Managers & Workplaces
“The complaint keeps turning back on the person who made it.”
Workplace dysfunction and domestic abuse both show up at work: missed days, repeated calls, a partner at reception, an investigation that flips. Managers need to know what they’re seeing and what their role allows.
Training
- It Clocks In: When Domestic Abuse Comes to Work
- When the Complainant Becomes the Accused (recognizing DARVO in investigations)
- Does This Work? Healthy working relationships
Tools
Advocates, Counselors & Social Services
“She can describe every incident, but not the pattern connecting them.”
Give clients and staff a shared vocabulary for the selection ploys and control tactics that make abuse so hard to see from the inside, drawn from more than 25 years of research.
Training
- Unmasking the Abuser™: Early Detection, Inside, After and Outside the Relationship
- How It’s Done: the ploys and tactics, step by step
- Train-the-trainer for your own staff
Tools
- Quick Reference Guide eBook as a staff primer
- Unmasking the Abuser™ Clarity Assessments for clients, with a professional license
Healthcare
“The partner answered every question I asked the patient.”
Clinicians often see controlling behavior in plain sight but have minutes, not hours. Learn what an observer can responsibly note, why silence in the room settles nothing, and how to create space for the patient’s own voice under your procedures.
Training
- Unmasking the Abuser™: Outside the Relationship
- Seminars and workshops designed around your setting
Tools
Courts, Law Enforcement & Government
“Each incident can be explained away. Together, they tell a different story.”
Dr. McMillan has trained courts, law enforcement and government since 2007. Programs focus on recognizing the sequence behind individual incidents, separating sources of information, and spotting tactics such as DARVO and recruited allies.
Training
- Unmasking the Abuser™ series, tailored to your agency
- How It’s Done: selection ploys and control tactics
- When the Complainant Becomes the Accused
Schools, Colleges & Youth Services
“It’s a new relationship, and they’re already cut off from their friends.”
Young people often meet manipulation before anyone has explained what it looks like. Teach students and staff the early warning signs, and what healthy, mutual relationships look like instead.
Training
- Unmasking the Abuser™: Early Detection
- Love Me, Love Me Not? Healthy, mutual relationships
- Outside the Relationship, for staff and peer supporters
Faith & Community Organizations
“Everyone here likes him. That’s part of the problem.”
Trusted settings can lend a halo to anyone in them. Help leaders and members recognize what’s happening, respond without pushing someone away, and offer help that truly helps.
Training
- Unmasking the Abuser™: Outside the Relationship
- Why Do I Feel So Bad? Difficult vs. damaging relationships
- Why We Wait: moving from knowing to doing
Don’t see your setting? Every program can be built around your audience. Tell us what you need.
“I just wanted to say how much I’ve been enjoying your podcast — your way of explaining manipulation, power dynamics, and bias is absolutely fascinating and has really changed how I think about prevention and communication.”
Katherine A.
Professional Toolkit
Tools You Can Use Today
Private, self-scored digital tools that start with observable behavior, not labels or diagnoses.
Outside the Relationship Clarity Assessment™
Organize what you’ve witnessed or been told, and flag an independent safety concern even when the wider pattern is unclear.
Outside the Relationship Score Guide & Insight Edition
Interpret your result, then explore what an observer can notice, what stays hidden, and how to respond without taking over.
Does This Work?™ + HR Score Guide
A structured look at a working relationship, with an interpretation guide written for HR practitioners.
A Quick Reference Guide to Abusers’ Strategies and Tactics
The selection ploys and 14 core control tactics, explained clearly. An easy first read for new staff and volunteers.
Using the Tools With Clients, Staff or Students?
Individual purchases are licensed for personal use. To use McMillan Method tools across a team, a caseload, a classroom or a training program, you’ll need a professional or organizational license. Licenses can be paired with training so your people use the tools confidently and consistently.
- Team and organization-wide licenses
- Licenses for client, classroom and training use
- Train-the-trainer packages
How It Works
Three Simple Steps
Tell us about your people
Your sector, audience, group size, timing and goals, online or in person.
We tailor the program
Dr. McMillan recommends topics, tools and format, then sends a quote.
Your team sees more clearly
A shared language for patterns, and practical next steps that respect each person’s role and safety.
Every Month Without a Shared Language Has a Cost
Missed signs, mishandled disclosures, complaints that turn against the person who raised them. One conversation is enough to start changing that.